It is quite normal for a child to forget homework, daydream during class, and sometimes do something without even thinking.
But, whether Monday or Saturday, January or June, more often than not, you have noticed, your child is literally whining throughout the day? Your child has unnecessarily picked up a fight with your younger or elder one? Or has started wailing seeing you pick up your younger one?
Even demands you do not talk to each other, as parents?
Yes, as working parents, you are completely unaware of his activities at home or school. But, after an entire day’s hackle when you come home tired to your child, if you get to hear about any of his or her wrong-doing be it at home from the sitter or from his school teacher, you give him or her a piece of mind or punish him or her severely.
We know and understand that, your child must have done something wrong, but punishment is a bigger wrong on your part. Don’t you realize that?
Punishment can put things to a temporary halt only!
As parents, have you ever thought, what is wrong with your child? And why any kind of punishment is not helping solve the problem?
That’s because, when you are not there, his whole being throbs of frozen emotional feeling, “I can’t feel you there! I feel afraid! I’m alone!” We know that you are good parents. And all that he or she is trying to say is that, he doesn’t want to alienate you from the others. Rather, he wants to build a close and warm communication with you. He wants to be co-operative and to be treated as an important part of your family.
All the parents, out there, you need to understand that, your child is suffering from ADHD, which means Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder. Globally, this is the most common childhood mental disorder and one out of 10 children, between the ages of 5 to 17 years suffers from this problem.
As Parents how do you deal with this kind of Problem?
As matured parents, it is not that you do not know why you child is suffering from such a problem. Since this is a disorder that affects the brain and behavior, there may not be a known cure for it. But there are several options that can help your child manage their behavioral patterns.
If you talk to your doctor, you will come across:
ADHD causes problem in your child in mixing with your peers and authority figures. Psychotherapy helps your child open up about his or her feelings, and helps handle his relationships better.
You, your child, and perhaps your child’s teacher, will work together on this. You’ll have to develop strategies on how your child behaves in respond to certain situations. These strategies will basically be a direct feedback to your child’s changing attitude. A score card can be supportive towards positive behavior.The main aim behind this Behaviour Therapy is to teach your child as to how he will manage and monitor his behavior, even change those behaviours appropriately.
Social skills Training
If your child has serious issues dealing with social environments, this training will teach him how to:
- Wait for their turn
- Share toys
- Ask for help
- Deal with Teasing
Support Groups, help you understand that, as parents, you are not the only one, who is dealing with their child’s ADHD problem. Here you may get chance to share similar experiences and concerns. In fact, it is a great resource for ideas and strategies for coping up with your child’s ADHD problems and helps you build your own network.
Parenting Skill Training
There are several tools and techniques in parenting skill training, through which you will be able to understand and manage your child’s behavior. Some techniques include:
- Immediate rewards:
If you notice your child behaving well, you start rewarding him or her on an immediate basis.
Sometimes, if your child becomes too unruly or out of control at some situations, use a timeout system, so as your child reacts appropriately next time, in similar circumstances.
Spend some time together with your child. During such time, look for opportunities to praise the strengths and abilities of your child.
- Finding his way of Success
You may structure situations in such a way that will allow your child to find success. For instance, you may allow them to have only one or two friends so that, they do not get over-stimulated
This beside, through various meditation, relaxation techniques as well as physical exercise, you can help bring your child’s behavior under control.
If you have recently observed any change in your child’s behavior, don’t avoid getting help for him or her, out of shame or fear. With appropriate support, you will definitely proper solution.